Talking Stage Questions That’ll Reveal Their True Intentions

I still remember that buzzing excitement of those first few messages—every “Hey, you up?” feeling like a mini heart-race. But as fun as the flirty back‑and‑forth can be, it’s easy to get swept up in the mystery and lose sight of what you really want: clarity. That’s why I’ve pulled together a handful of talking‑stage questions designed to cut through the small talk and reveal what’s really on their mind.

Whether you’re craving commitment, curious about their past, or just want to see if your vibes truly align, these prompts will give you the confidence to steer the conversation—and your heart—in the right direction. So grab your favorite mug, settle into your coziest spot, and let’s dive in!

Short Talking Stage Questions

• What’s your zodiac sign?
• Morning or night person?
• Coffee or tea?
• Favorite movie?
• Dogs or cats?
• What’s your go-to comfort food?
• Texting or calling?
• How do you spend your Sundays?
• Sweet or savory?
• Introvert or extrovert?
• Are you more spontaneous or a planner?
• Favorite season?
• What’s your dream job?
• Do you believe in soulmates?
• What’s your biggest pet peeve?
• Do you like surprises?
• What’s your toxic trait?
• How do you deal with stress?
• Do you believe in fate?
• Are you close with your family?
• What’s your biggest goal right now?
• Can you cook?
• Beach or mountains?
• What’s your red flag?
• What’s your green flag?
• Are you a jealous person?
• How often do you go out?
• Netflix or YouTube?
• What’s your ideal date?
• What’s your biggest ick?
• Ever been in love?
• Are you good at keeping secrets?
• Do you forgive easily?
• Would you date someone with different beliefs?
• What’s your biggest fear?
• Do you believe in karma?
• Are you more logic or emotion-driven?
• What’s something you’re working on?
• Do you journal?
• What’s your favorite holiday?
• Would you move for love?
• Do you like PDA?
• What makes you feel safe?
• Are you a deep talk or small talk person?
• Do you trust easily?
• What’s your most used emoji?
• Do you want kids someday?
• Do you believe in second chances?
• Can you be vulnerable easily?
• What’s something you’re proud of?
• Do you believe in forever?
• Do you like labels in a relationship?
• How do you show love?
• What’s your biggest green flag in someone else?
• Do you overthink a lot?
• What’s your end goal in dating?

Funny Talking Stage Questions

• What’s the dumbest way you’ve hurt yourself?
• If we were in a zombie apocalypse, how long would I last?
• What’s your most useless talent?
• Would you survive a horror movie?
• If I were a food, what would I be?
• What’s your toxic trait… when you’re hungry?
• What’s your go-to bad excuse to cancel plans?
• What’s the weirdest thing you believed as a kid?
• How many chickens would it take to defeat a lion?
• Have you ever been caught talking to yourself?
• If your life was a rom-com, what would it be called?
• What’s the most embarrassing song you love?
• Do you talk in your sleep?
• If you were a ghost, who would you haunt first?
• What’s the worst pickup line you’ve used or heard?
• Would you rather fight 100 duck-sized horses or one horse-sized duck?
• Can you do any celebrity impressions?
• What’s your weirdest flex?
• If you had a personal theme song, what would it be?
• What’s the strangest DM you’ve ever received?
• If we were characters in a sitcom, who would we be?
• What’s your most irrational fear?
• Ever tried to flirt and failed miserably?
• What’s your fast food guilty pleasure?
• If aliens landed right now, what would you say to them?
• What’s your go-to dance move when no one’s watching?
• If your pet could talk, what would it say about you?
• What’s the weirdest combo you’ve ever eaten?
• Would you ever go on a reality TV show?
• Have you ever had a dream so weird you couldn’t explain it?
• What’s your alter ego name?
• Would you rather have spaghetti for hair or sweat maple syrup?
• What’s your “I’m bored” activity?
• What’s your villain origin story?
• What’s a smell you weirdly love?
• Can you fake cry?
• Ever had a celebrity crush that makes zero sense?
• What animal do you actually act like when you’re mad?
• What would your drag name be?
• If you could instantly master one useless skill, what would it be?
• What’s something super random that always makes you laugh?
• If you were famous, what would it be for?
• How would you survive on a deserted island—with me?
• What’s your trashy TV obsession?
• If you had to marry a fictional character, who would it be?
• What’s your most dramatic text you’ve ever sent?
• Ever had an imaginary friend?
• Who would play you in a movie of your life?
• Would you rather never stop singing or never stop dancing?
• What’s your embarrassing “I thought I was alone” moment?
• If I challenged you to a lip sync battle, what song would you pick?
• Do you have a go-to “fake laugh”?
• What’s your spirit meme?
• What’s a lie you believed way too long?
• If you were a flavor of ice cream, what would you be?
• What’s the most awkward date you’ve been on?
• Ever sent a risky text and instantly regretted it?
• What’s your chaotic good trait?
• If we had a silly handshake, what would it look like?
• What would be your one-liner if you were a cartoon character?

Talking Stage Questions to Ask a Guy

• What’s something every guy should know but doesn’t get taught?
• Do you believe in “right person, wrong time”?
• What’s your biggest turn-on that’s not physical?
• What’s your dream version of a relationship?
• Are you a protector or a peacekeeper?
• How do you show affection?
• What’s your idea of the perfect date?
• What’s a green flag you notice in a girl?
• Have you ever cried over a movie?
• What makes you feel most respected in a relationship?
• Do you believe guys and girls can be just friends?
• What’s something you wish more girls understood about guys?
• What’s your biggest insecurity?
• Are you more of a cuddles or space type of guy?
• How do you act when you really like someone?
• What’s your go-to move when you flirt?
• Do you usually make the first move?
• What’s something that instantly makes you smile?
• Ever had your heart broken?
• What’s your definition of loyalty?
• How would your friends describe you?
• What’s something you’re working on within yourself?
• Are you a “good morning” text guy?
• What’s your biggest ick in a girl?
• Have you ever had a secret crush on a friend?
• Would you rather be rich or deeply in love?
• What do you notice first about a girl?
• What makes a girl unforgettable to you?
• How do you handle jealousy?
• What kind of compliments hit you the hardest?
• Would you rather a chill night in or wild night out?
• Do you believe in “the one”?
• What’s a habit that makes you instantly respect someone?
• What does emotional maturity mean to you?
• Have you ever been in a situationship?
• What’s your go-to comfort activity?
• Do you believe men should always pay for the date?
• Have you ever had to walk away from someone you loved?
• What’s your proudest moment so far?
• What’s your soft spot in a relationship?
• Are you more logical or emotional?
• What’s your dream career or lifestyle?
• What’s a non-negotiable in dating for you?
• How do you act when you’re falling for someone?
• Would you consider yourself romantic?
• Have you ever been cheated on?
• What makes you feel most masculine?
• Would you rather have a deep talk or joke around?
• If you really like someone, how do you show it?
• What song feels like your life anthem?
• What’s something random that instantly makes you happy?
• What kind of relationship advice would you give your younger self?
• Are you more of a words or actions type of guy?
• What’s your biggest “green flag” you bring to the table?
• What scares you the most about love?
• Would you rather build with someone or wait for perfection?
• What do you want from this talking stage?

Talking Stage Questions to Ask a Girl

• What’s something small that makes your whole day?
• Do you believe in love at first sight—or love that builds?
• What’s your go-to “I’m flirting” move?
• What makes you feel safe with someone?
• What’s a compliment that actually means something to you?
• Are you more of a hopeless romantic or realist?
• What’s a red flag you ignore too often?
• How do you act when you’re crushing hard?
• What’s your biggest ick in a guy?
• What’s a green flag you look for early on?
• What makes you feel instantly comfortable with someone?
• Have you ever been in love?
• What’s something you’d never settle for?
• What’s your idea of a fun date?
• How do you feel about being vulnerable in relationships?
• How do you show love when words aren’t enough?
• Do you believe guys and girls can be best friends?
• How important is physical touch to you?
• What makes you feel seen and understood?
• What’s your love language?
• What’s something you’d want your future partner to know from day one?
• Have you ever had a talking stage that turned serious?
• Are you more chill or high-maintenance?
• What’s your ideal texting vibe?
• What’s your biggest dating turn-off?
• Would you ever make the first move?
• How do you handle mixed signals?
• What’s your dream relationship dynamic?
• What makes you lose interest fast?
• What’s something that instantly wins your heart?
• Do you believe in soulmates or multiple chances at love?
• How do you act when you’re mad but still like someone?
• What’s your most memorable date so far?
• What’s something about you that most people don’t expect?
• Do you think love is more a feeling or a choice?
• What’s the most attractive trait in a guy to you?
• What do you wish more guys understood?
• What’s your favorite love song—and why?
• How do you recharge after a long day?
• Are you someone who overthinks texts?
• Would you rather be spoiled with gifts or time?
• What’s your biggest fear in relationships?
• How do you usually handle conflict?
• What kind of vibe do you not tolerate?
• Are you good at saying how you feel?
• What’s your idea of emotional intimacy?
• Do you believe in forever love?
• How do you respond to someone who ghosts you?
• What’s your “soft girl” side like?
• What do you need to feel truly appreciated?
• Have you ever gotten the ick—and why?
• What’s a random thing a guy can do that melts your heart?
• Do you like public displays of affection?
• How do you act when you’re nervous around someone you like?
• What do you look forward to most in a relationship?
• How do you balance independence and intimacy?
• What’s your biggest green flag in yourself?
• Do you believe in taking things slow or fast?
• What do you want someone to understand about you early on?
• What do you hope this talking stage leads to?

Deep Talking Stage Questions

• What’s a moment that changed you forever?
• Do you believe everything happens for a reason?
• How do you define love?
• What’s your biggest fear in life—not just relationships?
• What does “emotional intimacy” mean to you?
• Have you ever truly forgiven someone?
• What’s your relationship like with vulnerability?
• What’s a pain you’re still healing from?
• When do you feel most like yourself?
• What’s something you’ve never told anyone but wish someone asked?
• What kind of legacy do you want to leave?
• What role does trust play in your life?
• How do you handle disappointment?
• What does a healthy relationship look like to you?
• Have you ever felt misunderstood in a past relationship?
• What’s your relationship with your past self?
• What’s a lesson love has taught you the hard way?
• Do you believe people can really change?
• What does self-love look like for you?
• Do you feel seen and heard in your closest relationships?
• What’s something you’re still trying to understand about yourself?
• When was the last time you felt truly at peace?
• How do you process emotions—alone or with others?
• What scares you most about opening up to someone?
• How do you know when someone is genuine?
• What’s a belief you had that no longer fits you?
• Do you crave stability or adventure more in love?
• What does “home” feel like to you emotionally?
• Have you ever sabotaged something good out of fear?
• What’s your biggest emotional trigger?
• What does emotional safety mean to you?
• Who or what taught you the most about love?
• Do you think people are more afraid of love or loneliness?
• What’s something you’ve forgiven yourself for?
• How do you handle losing people—romantic or otherwise?
• What’s a value you’d never compromise in a relationship?
• Have you ever loved someone more than they loved you?
• What makes you feel deeply connected to someone?
• What’s a part of your story you wish more people understood?
• Do you feel like you’re still searching for yourself?

Spicy Talking Stage Questions

• What’s your biggest turn-on?
• Do you like to take the lead or be led?
• What’s your favorite form of physical affection?
• Have you ever had a crush on someone off-limits?
• What’s a non-PG thought you’ve had during a conversation?
• What’s your idea of a dangerously good first date?
• What’s something you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t yet?
• Are you more soft and slow or fast and intense?
• Do you believe in love at first sight—or just lust?
• What’s your biggest bedroom green flag?
• Have you ever had a spicy dream about someone unexpected?
• What instantly makes someone 10x hotter to you?
• Do you think chemistry is more physical or emotional?
• Would you ever kiss on a first date?
• What’s your “guilty pleasure” fantasy?
• Where’s the riskiest place you’ve ever flirted or made out?
• What’s your most attractive feature (according to you)?
• Would you rather a deep kiss or long eye contact?
• Do you like teasing or being teased more?
• What’s something totally innocent that turns you on?
• Do you like dirty talk—or keep it mysterious?
• What kind of touch drives you wild?
• What’s the hottest text you’ve ever received?
• How do you handle tension and temptation?
• Do you like to talk about your turn-ons or show them?
• What’s a secret fantasy you’ve never told anyone?
• How do you flirt when you’re really into someone?
• What’s the most confident thing you’ve ever done when crushing on someone?
• Ever had a makeout session that made you forget the world?
• Do you like building tension slowly or jumping right in?
• What’s your biggest “spicy” ick?
• If I whispered something in your ear right now, what would you want it to be?
• Have you ever sent a risky pic and panicked after?
• What’s something someone once did that you still think about?
• Would you rather be kissed slowly or passionately?
• What outfit instantly gets your attention?
• What’s your ideal amount of PDA?
• Are you more romantic or seductive when you like someone?
• What’s the one thing someone could whisper to completely ruin your focus?